If he tells you that he does not love you and he will never marry you, what would you do? Surprisingly there are many women out there right now in this very situation. The man that they have fallen in love with and have spent so many years of their life with, has told them that, he does not want to marry them. He has even told them that he does plan on marrying in the future, just not to her!
You would think that was a good enough reason for any woman to run out of there and find a new life. Unfortunately, most women in this situation don't get out fast enough. Their self esteem and self confidence are so low at this stage that they feel its best for them to stay where they are. They are probably scared of being alone or starting all over again. Well I say what is the use in staying in something where there is no love at all. You are giving out all this love and for what?
Self esteem and self confidence can come back. It just needs to be worked upon. Staying in a relationship where there is no love is not a way to get your self esteem back as most of us know. For those of you who don't know, self esteem is just a feeling, self confidence is just a feeling. These are feelings we can nurture and grow again. Just the same as it was knocked it can be mended. It takes time.
You have to start believing in yourself again. You have to look at who you are and what you are about. Forget about the situation you are in for one minute and take some time out for yourself and re discover who you are.
See your self in the future of who you want to be, how you want to feel, what you want to be doing with yourself, the type of man you want. Keep all those things in mind in a positive way. Keep focusing on the new you and watch it develop.
Do whatever it takes for you to get a new life and your confidence back!
Wednesday 16 June 2010
Wednesday 9 June 2010
Hormonial with pregnancy
Being pregnant is usually a great feeling. Both you and your partner are excited about the new life you are about to bring into the world. As a woman at times you can tend to feel unloved during your pregnancy or too fat, lazy, tired, miserable. All those unwanted feelings on top of being pregnant, can sometimes show up parts of you that even you didn't knew existed.
So from one day to the next you feel sad and even angry. Your not even sure why you feel like this. The hormones which are produced in your body are there for several reasons during your pregnancy.
Progesterone - This hormone are for relaxing the muscles in your womb which prevent contractions which could lead to miscarriage.
Oestrogen - This Hormone is there to help the preparation of your babies milk
Rexalin - This Hormone helps to soften your tissues and joints helps to increase your flexibility which in turn prepares you for your labour.
These are just a few, these hormones can then lead to you feeling sick which leads to morning sickness. With all these hormones and issues running around your body, no wonder you then scream and shout at him indoors. Half the time he has no idea what is going on. All he knows is that you are pregnant and your hormones are creating havoc on you and him!
There isn't really that much you can do with the sickness the crying the snapping. The most you can do is get yourself into a calmer state as you possibly can for you. Apparently Ginger will help with the morning sickness, try some gentle swimming to keep you calm, this will release the Endorphins which keep us happy.
Let your partner know how all these hormones can affect you, let him know that this is not the usual you and he needs to bare with you and be understanding. You will be back to normal once the baby is born. Just be aware of all of this. Search the Internet for remedies which can reduce some of the feelings.
You want your partner to love your regardless of the hormones, after all your both going through this pregnancy together.
Ask him to give you back massages and foot rubs. Let him bring you breakfast in bed at times. Let him pamper you to keep your moods up there.
How to cope with morning sickness
So from one day to the next you feel sad and even angry. Your not even sure why you feel like this. The hormones which are produced in your body are there for several reasons during your pregnancy.
Progesterone - This hormone are for relaxing the muscles in your womb which prevent contractions which could lead to miscarriage.
Oestrogen - This Hormone is there to help the preparation of your babies milk
Rexalin - This Hormone helps to soften your tissues and joints helps to increase your flexibility which in turn prepares you for your labour.
These are just a few, these hormones can then lead to you feeling sick which leads to morning sickness. With all these hormones and issues running around your body, no wonder you then scream and shout at him indoors. Half the time he has no idea what is going on. All he knows is that you are pregnant and your hormones are creating havoc on you and him!
There isn't really that much you can do with the sickness the crying the snapping. The most you can do is get yourself into a calmer state as you possibly can for you. Apparently Ginger will help with the morning sickness, try some gentle swimming to keep you calm, this will release the Endorphins which keep us happy.
Let your partner know how all these hormones can affect you, let him know that this is not the usual you and he needs to bare with you and be understanding. You will be back to normal once the baby is born. Just be aware of all of this. Search the Internet for remedies which can reduce some of the feelings.
You want your partner to love your regardless of the hormones, after all your both going through this pregnancy together.
Ask him to give you back massages and foot rubs. Let him bring you breakfast in bed at times. Let him pamper you to keep your moods up there.
How to cope with morning sickness
Sunday 16 May 2010
The power of Love
Love is a very powerful emotion. The feeling of love can make you do things you never believed you could. Love makes you feel empowered. Not only do you have a constant smile in your heart, you also have a smile coming through your words.
Being in love and being loved is the perfect recipe for a beautiful relationship. Any relationship without love can not and will not last. When the love goes some one must go. You can only cause damage to your own emotions by staying in a loveless relationship.
Once you fall in love and the love comes back, cherish it and nurture it, to keep it alive. Love needs to be cared for and cherished. Love must not be ignored and left to grow on its own. Nothing grows without some kind of nurturing.
If you are in love and you are being loved, allow it to grow into a beautiful flower. Do whatever it takes to allow it to grow.
Love is Beautiful.
Being in love and being loved is the perfect recipe for a beautiful relationship. Any relationship without love can not and will not last. When the love goes some one must go. You can only cause damage to your own emotions by staying in a loveless relationship.
Once you fall in love and the love comes back, cherish it and nurture it, to keep it alive. Love needs to be cared for and cherished. Love must not be ignored and left to grow on its own. Nothing grows without some kind of nurturing.
If you are in love and you are being loved, allow it to grow into a beautiful flower. Do whatever it takes to allow it to grow.
Love is Beautiful.
Monday 19 April 2010
Staying Beautiful for you
We have those days at times when we just feel ugly even though we are not. We also have the days when we feel so beautiful inside and out nothing can spoil our day no matter who comes to try and test us. Being beautiful inside and outside is a must for us women. We know what beauty is, the beauty which relates to us as individuals.
What I think to be beautiful another person may not. Its what we see for ourselves that matters. When we feel beautiful inside and out, so does our relationships. We give out what we feel. If you feel ugly or less attractive for the day, do something about it. We can all make ourselves feel and look beautiful. If you look into the mirror and you dont like what you see change it. Put some make up on and make your face glow. Get a sun tan if you need one. Change your hair style, buy a new outfit. Do something about your beauty. Its there just look in the mirror and see your own beauty.
Its so important for us to feel great about the way we look and feel, our partners will pick up on it and treat us exactly how we feel. So go the extra mile and take care of yourself. Dont let yourself go, just becuase you have put on some weight, it doesnt mean it has to stay there. Get rid of it. Just becuase you have gained a few lines, they dont have to stay there either, depending on how far you want to go, you can also get rid of that too!
If your car broke down would you leave it on the roadside or would you pay the extra few hundred pounds to fix it? Well if you have a few things that need tending to I would say dont leave it by the way side, fix it! Enjoy what you look at in the mirror. Feel good and let others feel what you are feeling too.
How many of you wear your favourite perfume only on special occassions? Listen wear it all the time, life is for living and enjoying, have fun look good and let him get the hots for you everyday, not just once in a while. Make the effort and make it happen.
What I think to be beautiful another person may not. Its what we see for ourselves that matters. When we feel beautiful inside and out, so does our relationships. We give out what we feel. If you feel ugly or less attractive for the day, do something about it. We can all make ourselves feel and look beautiful. If you look into the mirror and you dont like what you see change it. Put some make up on and make your face glow. Get a sun tan if you need one. Change your hair style, buy a new outfit. Do something about your beauty. Its there just look in the mirror and see your own beauty.
Its so important for us to feel great about the way we look and feel, our partners will pick up on it and treat us exactly how we feel. So go the extra mile and take care of yourself. Dont let yourself go, just becuase you have put on some weight, it doesnt mean it has to stay there. Get rid of it. Just becuase you have gained a few lines, they dont have to stay there either, depending on how far you want to go, you can also get rid of that too!
If your car broke down would you leave it on the roadside or would you pay the extra few hundred pounds to fix it? Well if you have a few things that need tending to I would say dont leave it by the way side, fix it! Enjoy what you look at in the mirror. Feel good and let others feel what you are feeling too.
How many of you wear your favourite perfume only on special occassions? Listen wear it all the time, life is for living and enjoying, have fun look good and let him get the hots for you everyday, not just once in a while. Make the effort and make it happen.
Friday 26 March 2010
How to Get Your Man Back (Rubbish)
Serioulsy now, why on earth would you want to take back anyone who left you for someone else? Dont you have any self respect for yourself? You are worth so much more than a hand me down. Leave him there with the woman he left your for and watch him come back begging for forgiveness. You dont need to go out and get him. If he left out of cheating and just wanting someting new leave him to get on with it. He will soon come running back if you believe you are worth more.......... Really though, would you take him back?
I dont beleive you should. Anyman who leaves you for another woman is not worth taking back. Imagine he left you feeling unloved, hurt, rejected and with a broken heart, why on earth would you want to take him back. He will only do it again,this time he may not leave, but he will see many other women behind your back. Especially now that you have taken him back. He will see you as an easy target, a pushover. Leave him there, let them have him!
He left you at home wondering where he was, he left you wondering who was calling his phone, who was making him smile........... remember he even made love to her and left you there wanting. He probably spent your money on her taking her on dates, wining and dining her. I say your money because he was your love therefore he spent on her what he should have spent on you. You dont need him back in your life to make you feel like crap again. Your Mr Right is just around the corner waiting for you. If you allow him to come in then he will. If you spend all your time thinking about how to get him back, then you will lose the true one who is waiting for you.
I dont beleive you should. Anyman who leaves you for another woman is not worth taking back. Imagine he left you feeling unloved, hurt, rejected and with a broken heart, why on earth would you want to take him back. He will only do it again,this time he may not leave, but he will see many other women behind your back. Especially now that you have taken him back. He will see you as an easy target, a pushover. Leave him there, let them have him!
He left you at home wondering where he was, he left you wondering who was calling his phone, who was making him smile........... remember he even made love to her and left you there wanting. He probably spent your money on her taking her on dates, wining and dining her. I say your money because he was your love therefore he spent on her what he should have spent on you. You dont need him back in your life to make you feel like crap again. Your Mr Right is just around the corner waiting for you. If you allow him to come in then he will. If you spend all your time thinking about how to get him back, then you will lose the true one who is waiting for you.
Thursday 25 March 2010
How to keep your relationship
Keeping the romance within a relationship is not difficult if it is something you have always done. No one wants a stale relationship. Everyone wants to be in love and feel loved. There are so many things we can do to keep the relationship alive, even when you think it is dying. When you do get to a stage of thinking your relationship is dying why not step back and look at when you first met. Remember how he made you feel, remember how he looked at you? Well why not go back to basics and revive the relationship, do the things you did in the begining, the things which made him fall in love with you and you him.
Wear the clothes you used to wear, well at least the type and the style. If you used to wear sexy fitted dresses and all he sees you in now are baggy tracksuits and the same old jeans, he may have stopped fancying you. You dont want your partner to stop fancying you. Go out of your way and dress up for him. If you have piled on the pounds, think about releasing them. We cant expect our men not to have wandering eyes when we dont look apealing to his eyes anymore.
Do not get complacent in your relationship, dont allow your partner to look at other women and wish you looked that way or acted that way, or was as romantic as that other person seems. The same goes with you too, you could be having roaming eyes because your partner have let himself go. We must make the effort in our relationships and not expect everything to stay the same as it was when we first met, if we have changed a lot!
It all goes with taking care of ourselves as women. We must make the effort for ourselves. Treat yourself to some pampering, go shopping and treat yourself to a new outfit a bag and a pair of shoes. Stop stressing about bills all the time. Make yourself look beautiful and give him a surprise.
Wear the clothes you used to wear, well at least the type and the style. If you used to wear sexy fitted dresses and all he sees you in now are baggy tracksuits and the same old jeans, he may have stopped fancying you. You dont want your partner to stop fancying you. Go out of your way and dress up for him. If you have piled on the pounds, think about releasing them. We cant expect our men not to have wandering eyes when we dont look apealing to his eyes anymore.
Do not get complacent in your relationship, dont allow your partner to look at other women and wish you looked that way or acted that way, or was as romantic as that other person seems. The same goes with you too, you could be having roaming eyes because your partner have let himself go. We must make the effort in our relationships and not expect everything to stay the same as it was when we first met, if we have changed a lot!
It all goes with taking care of ourselves as women. We must make the effort for ourselves. Treat yourself to some pampering, go shopping and treat yourself to a new outfit a bag and a pair of shoes. Stop stressing about bills all the time. Make yourself look beautiful and give him a surprise.
Friday 5 March 2010
should you leave?
You stay with him because its what you are used to. You stay with him because you are afraid to move on. You stay with him simply because you are not sure if you are doing the right thing. You stay with him because you are waiting for the right time. You stay with him because you need to get yourself sorted out before you move on, as you don't want too many distractions in your life.
Sometimes we stay with people all for the wrong reasons. Its not for love and it should be, it shouldn't be for all the other reasons, like, he makes life easier for me financially, Im scared to be on my own, my children need him around, I would hate to start a new relationship, better the devil you know. Yes we know about all of those excuses, but do you love him? does he love you?
I don't believe in cheating at all, but lately I have been listening to some women speaking and I can actually see why they would cheat, although I don't believe in it and I would not condone it. The way I see it, if you are with someone for any other reason other than love, then I belive there is room for you to stray. Every woman wants to feel loved and adored. Every woman wants to feel like a little princess. We may not speak about it, but deep down we want to be treated like the little princess in his life. Of course there is a lot more to any relationship than just love. Of course it goes deeper we want our men to be men also. We want our man to be able to fix the tap if its leaking or, carry the heavy shopping in doors for example.
But love is something that we all need to feel and give. If you are not feeling this then you may end up straying. The way I see it is, if you don't feel it, then don't stay in it. What if you stray and your straying becomes a habit, what if you end up having two relationships on the go, then what? When I say don't stray, there is no point you being with someone out of habit. If you meet someone new and you do fall in love, then obviously there is room for you to love someone else, whilst you are already in a relationship. I would say the other relationship is dead.
People can make mistakes, maybe you feel as though you are in love with this new person because he gives you what your partner is not giving you in doors. If this is the case, how will you feel once you stop seeing this new one, will you feel guilty, will you confess all? Further more will your original partner be able to give you what he hasn't been giving you why you have had to stray in the first place?
very very difficult and I don't envy anyone in this position. If your relationship is dead and your man is not what you want. I would say leave rather than staying there and being unhappy enough for you to cheat.
The other man may be the man of your dreams!
Sometimes we stay with people all for the wrong reasons. Its not for love and it should be, it shouldn't be for all the other reasons, like, he makes life easier for me financially, Im scared to be on my own, my children need him around, I would hate to start a new relationship, better the devil you know. Yes we know about all of those excuses, but do you love him? does he love you?
I don't believe in cheating at all, but lately I have been listening to some women speaking and I can actually see why they would cheat, although I don't believe in it and I would not condone it. The way I see it, if you are with someone for any other reason other than love, then I belive there is room for you to stray. Every woman wants to feel loved and adored. Every woman wants to feel like a little princess. We may not speak about it, but deep down we want to be treated like the little princess in his life. Of course there is a lot more to any relationship than just love. Of course it goes deeper we want our men to be men also. We want our man to be able to fix the tap if its leaking or, carry the heavy shopping in doors for example.
But love is something that we all need to feel and give. If you are not feeling this then you may end up straying. The way I see it is, if you don't feel it, then don't stay in it. What if you stray and your straying becomes a habit, what if you end up having two relationships on the go, then what? When I say don't stray, there is no point you being with someone out of habit. If you meet someone new and you do fall in love, then obviously there is room for you to love someone else, whilst you are already in a relationship. I would say the other relationship is dead.
People can make mistakes, maybe you feel as though you are in love with this new person because he gives you what your partner is not giving you in doors. If this is the case, how will you feel once you stop seeing this new one, will you feel guilty, will you confess all? Further more will your original partner be able to give you what he hasn't been giving you why you have had to stray in the first place?
very very difficult and I don't envy anyone in this position. If your relationship is dead and your man is not what you want. I would say leave rather than staying there and being unhappy enough for you to cheat.
The other man may be the man of your dreams!
Sunday 14 February 2010
Valentines Day
Don't stress, yes it's officially the most romantic day of the year. Great so lets all divert our attentions to this day and have romance! Yes have the romance for the day but lets have it everyday, not just on Valentines day. Valentines day can end up like xmas day if your not careful. You can go and overspend. I believe if you are normally romantic with your partner then you don't have to go all out on "Valentines Day".
My husband and I are generally romantic towards each other. Yes we will make sure that we do something different on that day only because it is "Valentines Day". I love romance but I wont be forced into the consumer part of it. My husband and I will do what we want to do. I refuse to spend a romantic night in a hotel for the double the price. We do that anyway for half the cost on a normal night. Like I said I love romance, but when we say not when the world says it has to be.
Our Valentines night will be spent eating a pizza in the car with a small bottle of champagne somewhere usually by a beech or the country, with some nice smooth music. We find this very romantic. So if you don't buy into the whole over spending on Valentines day then do something simple. This is my choice by the way. Personally our anniversaries are more special to me as those are our days and not the worlds.
If you don't have a valentine just plan for one for next year. Think about how you want them to look, act and treat you. Sleep with that on your mind, think about it during the day. Keep doing this for at least 31 days. Eventually they will appear.
Happy Valentine.
x
My husband and I are generally romantic towards each other. Yes we will make sure that we do something different on that day only because it is "Valentines Day". I love romance but I wont be forced into the consumer part of it. My husband and I will do what we want to do. I refuse to spend a romantic night in a hotel for the double the price. We do that anyway for half the cost on a normal night. Like I said I love romance, but when we say not when the world says it has to be.
Our Valentines night will be spent eating a pizza in the car with a small bottle of champagne somewhere usually by a beech or the country, with some nice smooth music. We find this very romantic. So if you don't buy into the whole over spending on Valentines day then do something simple. This is my choice by the way. Personally our anniversaries are more special to me as those are our days and not the worlds.
If you don't have a valentine just plan for one for next year. Think about how you want them to look, act and treat you. Sleep with that on your mind, think about it during the day. Keep doing this for at least 31 days. Eventually they will appear.
Happy Valentine.
x
Wednesday 10 February 2010
Dont just give up
I thought I would send this quick note letting you know how beautiful you women are. You must believe how great you are and you must not give up on relationships. I am hearing from some of my readers some real
negativity. I am hearing how some of you don't want relationships
anymore. You have given up finding mr right.
We must never give up on ourselves. Yes relationships do turn sour but it does not mean there is no hope for us in the future. just because that
relationship has not worked don't see all relationships as your old one.
Leave the old one there in the past where it belongs.
If you go around believing that all relationships are bad then you will
only get what you believe, and thats a bad relationship. Go into a new
relationship with good positive thoughts and not bad ones. Don't go
rushing into a relationship either soon after you have ended a negative
one. Give yourself time to breath. Time to get over the old one.
If you are already in a relationship and you are having problems, deal with
them. Don't see it as the end of the world. Turn the negativity into
a positive. If you sit down long enough and look into it you will find
some positivity out of it. Go back to the beginning and remember the
good times. Reenact them.
Don't live on negativity
Listen to my audio cd. There are some good tips there, that can help
along the way.
Woman get real with your Man
negativity. I am hearing how some of you don't want relationships
anymore. You have given up finding mr right.
We must never give up on ourselves. Yes relationships do turn sour but it does not mean there is no hope for us in the future. just because that
relationship has not worked don't see all relationships as your old one.
Leave the old one there in the past where it belongs.
If you go around believing that all relationships are bad then you will
only get what you believe, and thats a bad relationship. Go into a new
relationship with good positive thoughts and not bad ones. Don't go
rushing into a relationship either soon after you have ended a negative
one. Give yourself time to breath. Time to get over the old one.
If you are already in a relationship and you are having problems, deal with
them. Don't see it as the end of the world. Turn the negativity into
a positive. If you sit down long enough and look into it you will find
some positivity out of it. Go back to the beginning and remember the
good times. Reenact them.
Don't live on negativity
Listen to my audio cd. There are some good tips there, that can help
along the way.
Woman get real with your Man
Saturday 30 January 2010
Woman get real with your Man
I have taken my time to record a cd all about our relationships. I have used what I have learned in the past to record this. If you want solutions to why your man is treating you a certain way. Or even why you feel how you do in any relationship. Then treat yourself to my cd. Woman get real with your Man . I am very harsh in the way I put things across. I don't believe in prettying things up. There are too many women out there suffering in their relationships and they don't need to. Find out the solutions to why your relationship is going the way it is.
Find out why your man has stopped taking you out. Find out why he no longer compliments you. Its all there the raw hard facts.
Order the cd, once it comes, brace yourself for a real bumpy ride.
Find out why your man has stopped taking you out. Find out why he no longer compliments you. Its all there the raw hard facts.
Order the cd, once it comes, brace yourself for a real bumpy ride.
Tuesday 19 January 2010
Don't just give up.
If you are looking for a new relationship and you feel like giving up. Please do not resort to lowering your standards. Whatever you want in any relationship you can find it and get it. You just got to want it enough and take action for it. There is a Prince Charming out there for all of us, but if we give up looking or waiting and decide to take the next one that walks through the door then you are doomed for a failed relationship.
Have more patience and wait for him, he will come. Its your dream and you must never give up on it. Do not give up on your dreams. If anyone tells you that you are aiming too high take no notice of them. You will get what you ask for and what you dream of, as long as you keep dreaming about him and expecting him to come. I dreamed about the man I wanted until I eventually got him. I had many people telling me my chest was too high, in other words I should not set my sights too high. Well I did set them high, as high as I wanted and then guess what? yes I got him. So do what I did and don't give up. He will come to you. don't give up take action and be who you want to be and attract the man you want. Think about the man last thing at night and first thing in the morning. Think about how you want him to look, speak, walk, dress the lot.
Trust that he will come and he will.
Have more patience and wait for him, he will come. Its your dream and you must never give up on it. Do not give up on your dreams. If anyone tells you that you are aiming too high take no notice of them. You will get what you ask for and what you dream of, as long as you keep dreaming about him and expecting him to come. I dreamed about the man I wanted until I eventually got him. I had many people telling me my chest was too high, in other words I should not set my sights too high. Well I did set them high, as high as I wanted and then guess what? yes I got him. So do what I did and don't give up. He will come to you. don't give up take action and be who you want to be and attract the man you want. Think about the man last thing at night and first thing in the morning. Think about how you want him to look, speak, walk, dress the lot.
Trust that he will come and he will.
Tuesday 12 January 2010
Time Out
We must take time out at times. Now not time out of our relationships this time. This time Im talking about time out from the every day hassle and bustle of work, business life. We must take time out for our relationships otherwise it will be doomed for failure. How are you meant to get close with your partner if you are so career minded. Yes its great you want to be independent but what about your relationship?
You go up that ladder girl, but don't forget to keep him in mind. Don't make him feel less of a man because you are talking about your great future prospects, take some time out to spend quality time with him. Don't bore him with the me me me me me conversations. Leave it alone sometimes, he does acknowledge it and he does love you. He just doesn't want to hear it all the time. We as women can forget at times, men are like babies and need just as much attention as we do, positive loving caring attention. Focus on him for a whole week. Go out of your way to do just for him, awaken the love within him for you. Do this just for a week and watch the difference in his love to you.
We women want to be independent and strong but we forget about him along the way. Our men need to feel like men. You can be career minded and independent with him in mind, remember he needs to feel like a man. If you stop making him feel like a man, he will stop making you feel like the princess that you are.
So for this week, pamper your man.
You go up that ladder girl, but don't forget to keep him in mind. Don't make him feel less of a man because you are talking about your great future prospects, take some time out to spend quality time with him. Don't bore him with the me me me me me conversations. Leave it alone sometimes, he does acknowledge it and he does love you. He just doesn't want to hear it all the time. We as women can forget at times, men are like babies and need just as much attention as we do, positive loving caring attention. Focus on him for a whole week. Go out of your way to do just for him, awaken the love within him for you. Do this just for a week and watch the difference in his love to you.
We women want to be independent and strong but we forget about him along the way. Our men need to feel like men. You can be career minded and independent with him in mind, remember he needs to feel like a man. If you stop making him feel like a man, he will stop making you feel like the princess that you are.
So for this week, pamper your man.
Monday 4 January 2010
New Relationships
I thought I would touch on this subject as new relationships are not always easy. You know that one is for you but its not easy. A friend of mine met a new guy they really like each other and get on really well. She has only known him for a month so not long. They live a few hours away from each other so only get to see each other on the weekends for now. Thats normal nothing wrong with that. When you meet someone new and you just start out in a relationship you wont know much about each other. This is why we ask each other questions to find out more about each other. We want to know something about their past,why they broke up with their ex etc. This way we can put the puzzle of our new partner together.
You have gotten to know each other the best you can in such a short space of time. Naturally the more you are with each other and talk to each other on the phone you will get to know each other more. Meeting the friends the family etc. Don't expect perfection and don't expect that person to drop everything and change all their ways and lifestyle to suit you. This is a mistake people can make too early on in relationships.
My friend heard rumors about this new guy that she had met that he was a player, that he was seeing other women. My friend being the way she was did not like what she heard and made up her mind not to continue seeing this guy. Now I spoke to her and told her that she should not rush out of the relationship so fast. If she has heard that he is seeing other women she has to allow him to get on with his life the way she met him until they get to know each other. No one is going to drop their lives and commit 100% in any relationship immediately (well at least most people don't) . If you think they should do that for you,then you have a long way to go. Im not saying that the guy should continue seeing other women forever or for much longer. Just because we meet someone it doesn't mean that he is the one straight away. We have to wait and give it time to take its course. Maybe he does not want to commit to you and he is just testing the waters, therefore he will stop dating the other women once he is serious about his life or you.
Just because he is a player now, does not mean he will stay a player. He just needs to find the right person to settle down with. I don't believe in cheating or players but what I do believe is that if a man is dating women and he has not committed him self to anyone at that particular moment, then you will have a choice to continue to date this guy or stop. If you meet someone its up to you to ask him if he is seeing anyone, he can then let you know yes or no, serious or not serious, just dating. He could be searching for his Mrs Right. Naturally if he is dating there has to be a limit on how long he is dating other women for!
You have gotten to know each other the best you can in such a short space of time. Naturally the more you are with each other and talk to each other on the phone you will get to know each other more. Meeting the friends the family etc. Don't expect perfection and don't expect that person to drop everything and change all their ways and lifestyle to suit you. This is a mistake people can make too early on in relationships.
My friend heard rumors about this new guy that she had met that he was a player, that he was seeing other women. My friend being the way she was did not like what she heard and made up her mind not to continue seeing this guy. Now I spoke to her and told her that she should not rush out of the relationship so fast. If she has heard that he is seeing other women she has to allow him to get on with his life the way she met him until they get to know each other. No one is going to drop their lives and commit 100% in any relationship immediately (well at least most people don't) . If you think they should do that for you,then you have a long way to go. Im not saying that the guy should continue seeing other women forever or for much longer. Just because we meet someone it doesn't mean that he is the one straight away. We have to wait and give it time to take its course. Maybe he does not want to commit to you and he is just testing the waters, therefore he will stop dating the other women once he is serious about his life or you.
Just because he is a player now, does not mean he will stay a player. He just needs to find the right person to settle down with. I don't believe in cheating or players but what I do believe is that if a man is dating women and he has not committed him self to anyone at that particular moment, then you will have a choice to continue to date this guy or stop. If you meet someone its up to you to ask him if he is seeing anyone, he can then let you know yes or no, serious or not serious, just dating. He could be searching for his Mrs Right. Naturally if he is dating there has to be a limit on how long he is dating other women for!
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