Friday 18 September 2009

Wedding Anniversary

I believe that I have a great relationship with my husband. We all go through those moments when we think, man this is hard. I also believe that as long as you don't have those moments too often then you are on the right track. My moment happened a couple of weeks ago. It didn't last long, now I'm on the right track again. I think if we said those moments didn't ever happen, we would be lying.

My husband has whisked me away to a beautiful spa hotel. I'm loving it. Its our wedding anniversary and I wasn't sure what was in store as we were both busy working. Well first off in the office I get a knock on the door. I go to open it and my husband is standing there with a big bunch of flowers. He walks off, comes back to my office 2 hours later and tells me I have to finish now. He said he has closed his office and we need to go. I asked him where we were going he said I would have to wait and see. Well the long and short of it all is, a beautiful spa hotel. I have been in the suana steam room and swimming my happy little heart out. We are staying in a gorgeous manor house. When I get back i will upload some photos for you all to see.

Relationships are fab. I have also just done a ebook on relationships. its called
Good and Bad Relationships. Have a read and let me know what you think.

Wednesday 9 September 2009

Communication

We must communicate with our partners for them to understand us and for us to understand them. If there is something which is playing on your mind and you don't talk to him about it, then believe me it will come out in other ways. Eventually what you are holding in your mind will come out in your actions. If you believe deep down your partner is being unfair to you in any way at all you must let him know.

The thing is, if you believe that he is being unfair and you don't communicate it to him you will become stand offish towards him. You may even start to treat him negatively without him understanding why. You may not even understand why you are treating him the way you are yourself. If you keep things inside, it has a very funny way of showing up in all types of different forms. You may think that you have forgotten about it, but your actions are saying something completely different. Let me give you an example.

Your husband starts to receive phone calls from someone you don't know. He hasn't explained to you who that person is or what that phone call was about. Now his phone call and conversation could be very innocent, but you start to build a picture into your mind of what the conversation could have been about. You now decide not to speak to him about it, but its killing you inside. Now you have built up this un-trusting nature towards him. You decide to meet new people and have your own secret phone calls. You even start going out on dates with other men, as you believe your partner is hiding things from you. This is where all the un-trusting starts. He asks you where you are going, you tell him you are going out with "Pauline" He believes you but you have just told him a lie. Did he really deserve that? Why didn't you communicate with him to find out what that or those calls were about. So now your actions are all to do with getting your own back on him for something he may not have done. Thats just one example there are many more.

We need to communicate all things which bother us, regardless of the outcome. Other wise resentment come out of a once beautiful relationship.

Read more on communicating with him here.

Tuesday 1 September 2009

What is Love?

You and your man are happy. What a great feeling. Your both happy and in love. You still get excited when you see each other, even after so many years. He still makes you go weak at the knees. You both have romantic meals together. You holiday together, you have great conversations. You dance together at home and out. You do so much together. You still buy each other gifts, and leave love notes around the place from time to time.

You wake up in the morning you look at each other and there is love in your eyes and his. You kiss each other goodbye, you kiss each other hello. You think about each other throughout the day. You text each other, you send the odd cheeky email.

You still have your me time.... you still do the things you love to do with your friends or other family members. Your both happy to do that apart from each other. You miss each other when your apart, but its the kind of missing where you are looking forward to going home to him. He is looking forward to seeing you too.

You argue about something you both get upset. Then you make up and talk about it. You cuddle on the sofa have a glass of wine, you relax and unwind. Your both still in love regardless of the argument. These things happen. When you do argue, you make up and the feeling feels as though you have just met again.

You fancy each other like mad. You cant get enough of each other.

Who truly has this?