The thing is, if you believe that he is being unfair and you don't communicate it to him you will become stand offish towards him. You may even start to treat him negatively without him understanding why. You may not even understand why you are treating him the way you are yourself. If you keep things inside, it has a very funny way of showing up in all types of different forms. You may think that you have forgotten about it, but your actions are saying something completely different. Let me give you an example.
Your husband starts to receive phone calls from someone you don't know. He hasn't explained to you who that person is or what that phone call was about. Now his phone call and conversation could be very innocent, but you start to build a picture into your mind of what the conversation could have been about. You now decide not to speak to him about it, but its killing you inside. Now you have built up this un-trusting nature towards him. You decide to meet new people and have your own secret phone calls. You even start going out on dates with other men, as you believe your partner is hiding things from you. This is where all the un-trusting starts. He asks you where you are going, you tell him you are going out with "Pauline" He believes you but you have just told him a lie. Did he really deserve that? Why didn't you communicate with him to find out what that or those calls were about. So now your actions are all to do with getting your own back on him for something he may not have done. Thats just one example there are many more.
We need to communicate all things which bother us, regardless of the outcome. Other wise resentment come out of a once beautiful relationship.
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