New Relationships

I thought I would touch on this subject as new relationships are not always easy.  You know that one is for you but its not easy. A friend of mine met a new guy they really like each other and get on really well.  She has only known him for a month so not long.  They live a few hours away from each other so only get to see each other on the weekends for now.  Thats normal nothing wrong with that.  When you meet someone new and you just start out in a relationship you wont know much about each other. This is why we ask each other questions to find out more about each other.  We want to know something about their past,why they broke up with their ex etc.  This way we can put the puzzle of our new partner together.

You have gotten to know each other the best you can in such a short space of time.  Naturally the more you are with each other and talk to each other on the phone you will get to know each other more. Meeting the friends the family etc.  Don't expect perfection and don't expect that person to drop everything and change all their ways and lifestyle to suit you.  This is a mistake people can make too early on in relationships.

My friend heard rumors about this new guy that she had met that he was a player, that he was seeing other women.  My friend being the way she was did not like what she heard and made up her mind not to continue seeing this guy.  Now I spoke to her and told her that she should not rush out of the relationship so fast.  If she has heard that he is seeing other women she has to allow him to get on with his life the way she met him until they get to know each other.  No one is going to drop their lives and commit 100% in any relationship immediately (well at least most people don't) .  If you think they should do that for you,then you have a long way to go.  Im not saying that the guy should continue seeing other women forever or for much longer.  Just because we meet someone it doesn't mean that he is the one straight away.  We have to wait and give it time to take its course.  Maybe he does not want to commit to you and he is just testing the waters, therefore he will stop dating the other women once he is serious about his life or you.

Just because he is a player now, does not mean he will stay a player.  He just needs to find the right person to settle down with.  I don't believe in cheating or players but what I do believe is that if a man is dating women and he has not committed him self to anyone at that particular moment, then you will have a choice to continue to date this guy or stop. If you meet someone its up to you to ask him if he is seeing anyone, he can then let you know yes or no, serious or not serious, just dating.  He could be searching for his Mrs Right. Naturally if he is dating there has to be a limit on how long he is dating other women for!