should you leave?

You stay with him because its what you are used to.  You stay with him because you are afraid to move on. You stay with him simply because you are not sure if you are doing the right thing. You stay with him because you are waiting for the right time.  You stay with him because you need to get yourself sorted out before you move on, as you don't want too many distractions in your life.

Sometimes we stay with people all for the wrong reasons.  Its not for love and it should be, it shouldn't be for all the other reasons, like, he makes life easier for me financially, Im scared to be on my own, my children need him around, I would hate to start a new relationship, better the devil you know.  Yes we know about all of those excuses, but do you love him? does he love you?

I don't believe in cheating at all, but lately I have been listening to some women speaking and I can actually see why they would cheat, although I don't believe in it and I would not condone it.  The way I see it, if you are with someone for any other reason other than love, then I belive there is room for you to stray.  Every woman wants to feel loved and adored.  Every woman wants to feel like a little princess. We may not speak about it, but deep down we want to be treated like the little princess in his life.  Of course there is a lot more to any relationship than just love.  Of course it goes deeper we want our men to be men also.  We want our man to be able to fix the tap if its leaking or, carry the heavy shopping in doors for example.

But love is something that we all need to feel and give.  If you are not feeling this then you may end up straying.  The way I see it is, if you don't feel it, then don't stay in it.  What if you stray and your straying becomes a habit,  what if you end up having two relationships on the go, then what?  When I say don't stray, there is no point you being with someone out of habit.  If you meet someone new and you do fall in love, then obviously there is room for you to love someone else, whilst you are already in a relationship.  I would say the other relationship is dead.

People can make mistakes, maybe you feel as though you are in love with this new person because he gives you what your partner is not giving you in doors.  If this is the case, how will you feel once you stop seeing this new one, will you feel guilty, will you confess all? Further more will your original partner be able to give you what he hasn't been giving you why you have had to stray in the first place?

very very difficult and I don't envy anyone in this position.  If your relationship is dead and your man is not what you want. I would say leave rather than staying there and being unhappy enough for you to cheat.

The other man may be the man of your dreams!