Tuesday 29 December 2009

Xmas Photos

As promised here are a few photos of myself and my husband during the eve before the eve and xmas eve.  I really do hope you guys stuck to your end of the deal and made your evenings special.


My husband tending to the turkey with his xmas hat on.


My turn with the turkey!

The ones with the negligee on you will just have to believe that we had the egg nog and the mince pies.  We had so much fun we laughed ate and drank.

Hope you all had a fab xmas.  Ill be back in the new year.

x





Monday 21 December 2009

Xmas and Romance

Xmas is the time of year when we women are rushing around, trying our best to do the best xmas ever.  We want the table to be dressed well, we want to make sure the family are well cared for in the presents department.  We also want to make sure we get our partner something a bit more special than last year.

Ladies lets not leave out the romance in xmas.  With all the rushing around you may forget all the little extra or special things you need to do for him to feel that extra bit more special. We know we do these things more than once a year, more than just at xmas, but at xmas its all about romance as well as the presents.  So what are you going to do this year to make him and yourself feel a bit more special.  As you know the more you do for him the more you get back in return as he feels loved.  Here a few tips of things you can do for him or for you both these things will be within everyones budget I hope.  Also if you have never done any of this try and do this, it may sound silly some of it, but you can have fun doing it.

Buy 2 silly xmas aprons, one for you and one for him

The eve before xmas eve,  All the shopping should all be done by now and you may be preparing the turkey..... Try preparing the turkey together, whilst your both doing, this play some xmas music whilst drinking some xmas wine.  Do a really silly dance just to get him in the mood as he may not want to get involved make him laugh.  (Be different)

Xmas Eve

mmmm Mince pie time. In the evening after a nice relaxing bath with all the nice scented oils Serve your husband/partner with his xmas mince pies with loads of cream on it a nice glass of eggnog.  Make sure this is a quiet time when kids are away in bed. Again xmas music in the background. Put on your new xmas negligee and feed each other mince pies, try doing this with xmas hats on. (it must be fun as well as romantic)  So simple and basic, yet these things can make the world of difference to him.  Make him feel special, so he can make you feel special back.

I will be doing these things, I will even take photos of us and stick them on here for all to see, that will be fun!!  I would love to see your photos too.  Email them to me if you want to see them on here.  awalters@awalterskitone.co.uk

You may want to try out a new recipe for the family too.

Thank You

Hi Guys, just a quick thank you to all those who have purchased my book today.  My book is about my past life, if you have not already purchased it, the link is on the right hand side. Happy reading.

Sunday 13 December 2009

Are you the other Woman?

Are you the other woman and if so Why?  What makes us women fall for men who are already taken?  Do we think that little of ourselves or do we believe him when he says, he is not happy with her at home, and you are the one for him and that he will be leaving the other woman soon?  Do you really believe this?

I believe if you are single then you are better off staying single until the right person comes along.  We must not sell ourselves short.  I understand that you may have met someone then found out that he is with someone else. If you found out a long while after then it may not be so easy to just get up and walk away but you have to find that strength and go.  If he has been seeing you both for such a long time, then he really has no intentions of making you his woman.  if you found out a few months after getting together then it would be a lot easier to leave this person rather than staying in that dead end relationship.  This kind of man is not a faithful man.  Especially as he is playing you with his other partner.  I believe if a man is already with someone, then meets someone new and falls in love with the new woman, then this man has to be serious with the partner he is originally with.  He cant say he has fallen in love with this new woman then have them both.  For him to fall in love with you "the other woman", either he no longer loves her indoors or he is lying to you!  Just remember he is a liar, after all he is lying to his woman indoors, Im sure he hasn't told her about you.

He has to make a choice, but when women decide to stay with the cheating man hoping and waiting for him to leave the main woman, we just give him his cake to eat.  Then we go around complaining that men are cheats and they are useless.  Sometimes we make them the way they are. If you accept to stay with that man who has another woman, then it makes you the one in the wrong also.  He wont leave her for you, and if he does will you really trust him. He will do the same thing to you, he will cheat on you too and you will have another woman in your relationship in the future.

If he did leave his woman for you, Im not sure how you could sleep at night knowing that you have the man that was with another woman.  I know that I would be panicking, "is he seeing someone else" You become insecure, you become paranoid.  if you do become the main woman.  I don't believe that you will trust him or even could. This is how women get low self esteem.  Some of these things we give to ourselves.  You then start to believe that you may as well be with him, even if he has got another woman because you wont find anyone anyway. Thats how you build up the low self esteem.

You get to a point where you want someone for yourself, well how are you going to find anyone with someone else's man in your life?   You may as well be on your own, being single is not a crime. There are so many good men out there, single good men.  This man will keep you there being his other woman for years if you let him.  I know of a woman who has been the other woman for 7 years now.  Its not fair on the other woman.  We as women must take other woman's feeling into consideration. Would you like to have a man, fall in love set up a life with him then to find out that he is seeing someone else.  There is such a thing as Karma, and this could happen to you.  It is a selfish thing to do.

The man very rarely leaves his woman for the other woman, and if he does I don't believe that relationship will be a strong one.

Now on the other hand if there is another reason for the man to be seeing someone else, ie: he is no longer in love with her indoors, she has been seeing someone else, or any other valid reason, I believe that man still needs to end his relationship with the main woman first before he goes pursuing another woman.

Just don't be that other woman, its not worth it.  Most of what he tells you will be lies.  There is a link at the end of this for anyone who wants help in finding and keeping the right person.

Find someone for you and make it be the right person.

Tuesday 1 December 2009

Long Distance Relationships can they work?

I personally believe long distance relationship can work, with a lot of hard work and trust.  When I say long distance I am talking about from one country to another.  If you know that you are both committed to each other and you are planning for a future together, then you are on the right track.  Let me explain a bit more about what I am talking about.  If you meet someone and you are having a relationship together wether you meet in the same country or online, where ever.  If you both decide that, that is what you both want then it can work.  If you are both committed to traveling to see each other in opposite countries and you do it, then it can work.  What you will find is that over time one of you will make the right decision as to who is moving where, as one of you have to move somewhere for you both to continue your lives together.  Don't think for one moment that one of you wont be moving.

Long distance relationships can work just remember one of you will be moving eventually.  If you think you can have this relationship just on cam, over the phone, email, texting etc, then you are wrong.  One of you will be moving if you want to be together.  If you see that neither one of you are going to make that move, then this is when naturally the relationship is not going to work.  Again, this will take time.  If it happens within the first year then great, if not don't worry, it doesn't mean it wont happen. Some things take longer with some people, due to commitments.  Ie: education,  family work. As long as you make it your priority to travel every now and then to see each other.

If you find someone who you get on with and they live hundreds and thousands of miles away from you, there is no harm is starting your life together in another country.  Who said the love of your life is in the country you live in?  Its a big wide world out there for any successful relationship.

Relationships can work anywhere for anyone, as long as you want it and you work at it. Just remember anything in life worth having does not come easy.

Work on your relationship together.