Are you the other Woman?

Are you the other woman and if so Why?  What makes us women fall for men who are already taken?  Do we think that little of ourselves or do we believe him when he says, he is not happy with her at home, and you are the one for him and that he will be leaving the other woman soon?  Do you really believe this?

I believe if you are single then you are better off staying single until the right person comes along.  We must not sell ourselves short.  I understand that you may have met someone then found out that he is with someone else. If you found out a long while after then it may not be so easy to just get up and walk away but you have to find that strength and go.  If he has been seeing you both for such a long time, then he really has no intentions of making you his woman.  if you found out a few months after getting together then it would be a lot easier to leave this person rather than staying in that dead end relationship.  This kind of man is not a faithful man.  Especially as he is playing you with his other partner.  I believe if a man is already with someone, then meets someone new and falls in love with the new woman, then this man has to be serious with the partner he is originally with.  He cant say he has fallen in love with this new woman then have them both.  For him to fall in love with you "the other woman", either he no longer loves her indoors or he is lying to you!  Just remember he is a liar, after all he is lying to his woman indoors, Im sure he hasn't told her about you.

He has to make a choice, but when women decide to stay with the cheating man hoping and waiting for him to leave the main woman, we just give him his cake to eat.  Then we go around complaining that men are cheats and they are useless.  Sometimes we make them the way they are. If you accept to stay with that man who has another woman, then it makes you the one in the wrong also.  He wont leave her for you, and if he does will you really trust him. He will do the same thing to you, he will cheat on you too and you will have another woman in your relationship in the future.

If he did leave his woman for you, Im not sure how you could sleep at night knowing that you have the man that was with another woman.  I know that I would be panicking, "is he seeing someone else" You become insecure, you become paranoid.  if you do become the main woman.  I don't believe that you will trust him or even could. This is how women get low self esteem.  Some of these things we give to ourselves.  You then start to believe that you may as well be with him, even if he has got another woman because you wont find anyone anyway. Thats how you build up the low self esteem.

You get to a point where you want someone for yourself, well how are you going to find anyone with someone else's man in your life?   You may as well be on your own, being single is not a crime. There are so many good men out there, single good men.  This man will keep you there being his other woman for years if you let him.  I know of a woman who has been the other woman for 7 years now.  Its not fair on the other woman.  We as women must take other woman's feeling into consideration. Would you like to have a man, fall in love set up a life with him then to find out that he is seeing someone else.  There is such a thing as Karma, and this could happen to you.  It is a selfish thing to do.

The man very rarely leaves his woman for the other woman, and if he does I don't believe that relationship will be a strong one.

Now on the other hand if there is another reason for the man to be seeing someone else, ie: he is no longer in love with her indoors, she has been seeing someone else, or any other valid reason, I believe that man still needs to end his relationship with the main woman first before he goes pursuing another woman.

Just don't be that other woman, its not worth it.  Most of what he tells you will be lies.  There is a link at the end of this for anyone who wants help in finding and keeping the right person.

Find someone for you and make it be the right person.